Family Constellations

Changing where we stand can change how we feel.

We all have dark corners we would like to bring into the light.

Family constellations allow us to shed light on problems, symptoms, relationships and challenges, so that we can understand them better and integrate them.

Discover family constellations

Family constellations allow us to represent what worries us, holds us back or is difficult for us to understand: a symptom, a relationship, a difficulty, a decision or a question about our lives.

By observing the positions, movements and sensations that arise during the representation, we may discover aspects that we had not previously been able to see. And from that new understanding, we can begin to open up other paths.

Some stories do not begin with us, yet they are part of how we inhabit the world.

I

Choosing what to explore

A person arrives with one or more themes they would like to explore. In conversation with the facilitator, they choose one to work on and clarify the focus. They then decide who or what will be represented and give each a place in the space.

II

Observing what emerges

Once this first image has been created, the constellation begins. The facilitator observes the positions, movements and sensations that emerge. They may ask questions, suggest changes or simply allow the process to unfold.

III

A seed of a solution

The constellation continues until an image emerges that contains the seed of a solution, or until there is a sense that, at that moment, there are no more steps to take.

Different ways to work with constellations

Constellations can take place individually or in a group, in person or online. Depending on the format, the representation may be created with people, figurines, objects or other elements.

03 / MY WAY OF FACILITATING

Look, feel
and discover.

01 / PLACE

Where we stand shapes how we feel.

Sometimes changing our place helps us see things from a different perspective and, with that, feel them and relate to them in a different way.

02 / FEELING

Not everything needs a solution.

At times, simply looking and feeling differently is enough to recognise something that was already there — in ourselves, in others or in our own story.

To recognise is also to come to know again, to see again. And that encounter can, in itself, be deeply meaningful.

03 / GROWING TOGETHER

I am still learning, too.

In my opinion, working with constellations makes us better people. We are all part of that journey.

Bernardo Ramirez with his two children
04 / ABOUT ME

Hello, I'm
Bernardo Ramirez.

I'm Portuguese and I live in Spain. I'm 52, married, and the father of two children.

I trained in astrology and in family and organisational constellations, and I've been working with constellations since 2007. The themes that move me most are trauma, pain, new forms of family and issues affecting the LGBTQIA+ community.

I'm passionate, sensitive, clumsy and a little dramatic. I'm fascinated by people and the unseen, and I dream of a better, more humane world.

Shall we talk?
05 / GATHERINGS & WORKSHOPS

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meet?

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Do I need any previous experience to participate?

No. You don't need to be familiar with family constellations or to have taken part before. At the beginning of each workshop, the way the gathering works is explained, and you can ask any questions you may have.

Do I need to know exactly what I want to work on?

Not necessarily. You may arrive with a specific question, several themes, or simply something that is troubling you and that you do not quite know how to express. The initial conversation with the facilitator helps identify a starting point.

What is the difference between doing your own constellation, representing and observing?

Doing your own constellation means working on a question of your own.

Representing means taking part in someone else's constellation, standing in for a person or an element of their representation.

Observing means witnessing the process without intervening directly.

These are three different ways of taking part in a workshop. The options available are explained for each gathering.

Do I have to share my personal story in front of the group?

You do not need to tell your whole story or share intimate details that you would prefer to keep private. What matters is being able to speak about what you wish to explore, while always respecting your own boundaries.

At group gatherings, all participants must commit to respecting the confidentiality of what is shared.

What if I don't want to represent, or something makes me uncomfortable?

You can decline an invitation to represent. And if something makes you uncomfortable during an activity, you can say so and ask to stop or step out.

No one has to force themselves into something they don't feel strong enough for.

What happens after a constellation?

Everyone experiences it differently. Sometimes new insights arise immediately; at other times we need time to reflect on what we have experienced.

There is no right reaction and no particular result you are expected to achieve.

Do family constellations replace psychotherapy?

No. Family constellations are not a substitute for medical or psychological care and should not be used to diagnose or treat illnesses.

They can be a form of personal exploration, but they do not guarantee results.

How long is a workshop, and how much does it cost?

The duration, price and ways of participating may vary from one gathering to another. You will find all the details in each workshop announcement.

07 / CONTACT

Shall we talk?

If you are curious, have a question or simply want to know more about family constellations and upcoming gatherings, I would be delighted to hear from you.

Write to me. It will be a pleasure to meet you.

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